Bride chooses grandpa over stepfather
Family is very important, and being a good parent means taking care of your kids, helping them, and loving them a lot. Just like how people long ago thought the Earth stood on three strong pillars, a strong family needs these three things too.
A girl shared her story online about living with her stepfather. She lived with him almost her whole life. He took care of her, but he often reminded her that she wasn’t his real daughter. This made her feel left out and sad.
When it was time for her wedding, she wanted her grandpa to walk her down the aisle instead of her stepfather. This decision made her stepfather very angry.
Here’s what happened next…
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The girl who shared her story is getting married soon, and her grandpa will walk her down the aisle.
Photo by Asad Photo Maldives (It’s not the actual photo)
It turned out that the girl’s stepfather always made sure to remind her that she’s not his real daughter.
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However, the stepfather expected the girl to call him ‘dad’ and treat him like her real dad. Bride chooses grandpa over stepfather
When the Bride Chose Her Grandpa to Walk Her Down the Aisle, Her Stepfather Got Angry
The girl sharing her story is 24 years old and getting married soon. She decided that her grandpa would walk her down the aisle. This choice upset her stepfather, who felt she owed him for raising her all these years.
For 23 years, the girl lived with her stepfather and her siblings. Her mom met her stepfather when she was just 1 year old, and they have lived together since then.
While her stepfather took good care of her and was responsible, he always made it clear that she wasn’t his real daughter. Whenever someone asked how many kids he had, he would say she was his stepdaughter. He called her younger sister “my first baby girl” and her half-brother “his first-born.”
This hurt the girl a lot. When she was eight, she even asked her stepfather to adopt her, but he changed the subject. It seemed like he was uncomfortable discussing it in front of her grandparents.
Interestingly, her stepfather liked it when she called him “dad.” Once, when she didn’t correct a friend who called him her stepdad, he got upset. When she pointed out that he always distanced himself from her, he said it was a different matter.
As her wedding approached, she decided that her grandpa would walk her down the aisle. Her stepfather got mad and reminded her of all he had done for her. He felt she should treat him like a real dad, despite how he had always treated her. She remembered how he happily talked about the weddings of “his two little girls,” but not hers.
The girl felt it was unfair for her stepfather to expect to be treated like a real dad while constantly reminding her she wasn’t his real daughter. She decided to stick to her choice.
Many people in relationships with someone who already has kids think they are doing a big favor by taking care of those kids. They believe the kids owe them for this. But this thinking is wrong, says psychologist Irina Matveeva.
Irina believes the girl’s mom is partly to blame for letting her husband treat her daughter this way. After having kids together, the mom allowed him to draw a line between “his” and “not his” children. Maybe she was afraid for their relationship, but it wasn’t worth it if her daughter suffered.
The girl did the right thing by standing up to her stepfather’s double standards. In the end, he got what he always wanted. Since she wasn’t his daughter, he wouldn’t walk her down the aisle. Justice was served, even after many years.
People in the comments supported the girl’s decision and criticized her stepfather. One person wrote, “You made the right choice to ask your grandpa to walk you. Your stepdad and mom don’t understand how his words and actions hurt you.”
Some commenters even said the stepfather didn’t deserve an invitation to the wedding after his years of hypocrisy. Another person added, “Does he mean the things all responsible adults give their children and stepchildren? Food, shelter, clothing, etc.? That’s their job as parents and step-parents. Send him a thank you card and call it a day.”
What do you think, dear readers? Do you agree with this viewpoint?
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